Broken Promises

In this day and age I find it quite ironic when I hear someone say, "you promise or you swear". Why even bother anymore. Not really in my lifetime since I'm only 20, but I know that like in my grandpa's childhood, when someone said I'll do that, or I'll be there, they meant it. They didnt have to promise or swear on it. I realize that times have changed, but why has this. A persons word should be enough. Unfortunately it isnt though. I find that sad.

So to my original thought of why I wrote this entry...why even make a promise. Not just from what I said up above, but I mean...you cant actually promise/swear to keep what the "deal" was about. Say like for an example dating. When your young, or old like me...haha, when your dating starts to get a litle serious you start getting a little paranoid and start saying things like, "oh baby, I'm never going to leave you" "your the only one for me" and my favorite, "I'll never love another person as long as I live". Why do we say these things. Dating and marriage are two different subjects here....I dont really want to get into the marriage subject...I'll just say that for marriage, it takes work to wake up to the same person everyday for the rest of your life. You cant just sit back and expect it to happen for you. You dont fall in and fall out of love, you GROW in and GROW out of love.

Anyways, back to the dating realm. Why do we say these things. I'll be the first to admit I've done it. I've said it to lets see....excluding my Fiancee now, 2 other girls. Silly isnt it? When your dating you cant promise that kind of stuff. Thats what dating is all about, finding the one you are going to marry. So why not wait til you exchange your vows to make that kind of statement. That way when and if you do break up, the heart ache wont be as ginormous as it would be without such commitment.

I've had three serious relationships. Two which I tried to force and not let God to his magic with me. I was young and totally loved the physical benefits of the relationships. I didnt want to be alone for the simple fact of, I loved the physical stuff. So I did what every person does, I made those commitments. You get so comfortable with the situation your in, even though your not compatible in every aspect of the relationship, and think you can make it happen. I was wrong. Did I love them? I loved one of them. But she was also a great friend of mine before we dated. So it was hard not to love her. Do I still...no, not that way. As a friend I do.

Relationships, girls, all complicated. I doubt that I ever fully understand either of them, even with all the experience that I gain in my lifetime. But before I end this, just one little piece of advice for those dating...dont make such an overwhelming commitment until the day of your vows at your wedding. Trust me its well worth it to wait. Have a great day, adios.